Going from kissing boo boos to praying for broken hearts, this is where I find myself. It is by far the hardest place I have found myself in motherhood so far. I’m convinced that there is nothing harder on this journey than learning how to navigate through each new stage as they come.
In the recent months my mind has been recalling numerous times that my daughter came running to me with scraped knees and bruised legs. I have to say as I look back, those were the easy days. I could almost effortlessly make her pain go away as I wiped her tears and kissed the boo boo. Now, broken and bruised hearts, I’m afraid these aren’t so easy. I am still wiping tears only they have multiplied quicker than dandelions, and praying desperately for God’s divine intervention, wisdom, and guidance.
But as my mind drifts back to the reality that is, my heart breaks with hers. Life isn’t simple, there are times it’s just plain hard. So, as a Mom, I have found myself more frequently praying, “God, how do I navigate through this season of life in a way that helps us both and honors you?”
God has tapped my heart, grabbed my attention, and reminded me to saturate her and myself with these words…
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6 – 9
Here’s three navigational helps God whispered back to me:
1. Love Him with all my heart, all my soul, and all my strength. (Emphasis mine)
When I love Him with all of me, I am filled with all that I need to handle things better and better equipped to help guide her through the many difficult circumstances and situations life will bring her way. God is first and foremost and I have to love Him fully in order to lead my daughter to do the same. It’s through Him that we are equipped to be the Mom He called us to be. Everything in our lives and theirs starts with us loving God with all of our hearts, souls, and strength.
2. Keep His commandments on my heart.
His commandments remind and guide us, and when they are kept on our hearts, everything else will have a tougher time getting through the truth that guards them. Keeping His word at the front door of our hearts by reading, meditating, and memorizing it will help our thoughts not fall victim to the enemies lies (like that I’m a failure as a Mom). God’s Word locks him out and allows no forced entry. We are better equipped to guide them through life biblically if His commandments are present in our hearts.
3. Take time impressing on her heart the same things He has impressed on mine, and never miss an opportunity to talk to her about them.
There are many conversations that will take place between us and our kids and the best way to use that time is to impress God’s truths on their hearts every chance we get through the opportunities that life presents. That’s why God says talk about it when you sit, when you walk, when you lie down and when you get up. It’s not just a matter of speaking those words into their lives, but living them out in our own lives as an example as well. He tells us to do them first and then teach our children. I’ve never really liked the old saying, “Do as I say not as I do.” If I want my daughter to live a life for God, she needs to see her Dad and I living a life for Him. Our words will mean absolutely nothing if our actions aren’t lining up.
Truth is, parenting is never easy. I am learning that more and more every day. When she hurts, I hurt. When she cries, I cry. When she’s broken, it breaks me. I’m grateful to have the help I have from my Daddy because no one knows more than He does the pain or the reward of being a parent.
These new stages of life may be difficult, challenging and may hurt, but they are also rewarding. I get to watch as my daughter grows into this beautiful and unique creation that God has made her to be. I know that everything she goes through is to grow her and along the way it grows me, too.
Lord, help us to love you with all that we are, keep your commandments on our hearts, and take every minute and opportunity to talk to our children about them. Impressing your truths on their hearts is the greatest impression we can make on their lives, help us to never forget that no matter how tough life gets. In Jesus Name, Amen.